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To Keep or Not To Keep?

I found this blog entry on what to do with keepsakes (like journals) that could have negative feelings associated with them. The comments are really interesting and I thought of this community when I first read it.

http://smallnotebook.org/2012/09/10/what-to-do-with-neutral-or-negative-keepsakes/

Also - this blog is fantastic - one of my favorites. Enjoy. :)

(Can you believe 2012 is coming to a close? Crazy!)

Comments

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seaivy
Nov. 29th, 2012 03:58 am (UTC)
I have a sense of history. I know from experience how important ephemeral items are in getting a sense of the past and the people who lived in a particular place.
I want my journals and other papers to be saved so someone in the future will understand my times.
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 01:06 am (UTC)
When I'm writing, I'm not writing with a future person in-mind, outside maybe my son when he is older, in case he chances across something. I do think it's interesting to think about my little life in conjunction with the larger scheme of life in this century. I do try to include major historic events and what I thought in my journals for reference points later.
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pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 12:41 am (UTC)
:)
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pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 01:07 am (UTC)
I have destroyed one journal, but have everything else. I don't think I could do it!!
pinska
Nov. 30th, 2012 12:33 am (UTC)
Actually, I'm one of those "must keep journals" persons. :) I had some journals which felt like they contained a lot of bad memories, but in re-reading them, found that there was a lot I had forgotten about that was good, too!

I had read a study somewhere recently that said that happy people were more likely to remember happy memories and depressed people were more likely to recall bad times. I personally struggle with depression quite a bit, so it does make sense.

I also feel like to get a sense of the timeframe and what life was really like, we need to take the good with the bad. I don't know that I would want to keep a journal that didn't include my random emotions, but there are probably journal lets that would, especially in like a journal for a child.
peteonatree
Nov. 30th, 2012 08:46 pm (UTC)
I have to agree with seaivy. I feel that if I destroy journals because of the negativity and it holds a lot of bad memories, then that is like erasing a part of my history. It is vital to keep any journal, whether it was bad or good. I mean, I go back to my journals where I was in rough times and read what I have written and those old feelings never come back. I read it and I think to myself, "I am glad that I don't feel like this anymore. I am glad that I have changed since then." It shows personal process, in my opinion. In order to understand things better, you must see the progress that you have made and realize how much you've grown out of that situation. If anyone finds my old diaries and decide to publish them when I am gone, (I know, I know, I am young, but I am planning to journal till the end of my times.And I hope noone publishes them because that was not my intention, but if they do, what difference would it make anyway?) I guess I would just want them to know that I was human and that nobody was perfect in life. Everyone has ups and downs, but that is what makes us unique...
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 01:09 am (UTC)
Yeah, for me, when I go back and reread, I can still remember how I felt, but it is definitely not like reliving things. It's kind of like viewing with some distance between you and the subject matter?
andjadesmiled
Nov. 30th, 2012 09:42 pm (UTC)
I thought the article was a little extreme in what to discard xD I keep everything and write angst angst angst all the time because if you can't do it in a journal, where can you? I don't think I'd like to censor myself like that. If I want to rant, I rant. I have shredded old journals in the past, but I'm always free in what I write :)

Just an opinion though! :)

x
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 12:37 am (UTC)
It's kind of a minimalist-friendly blog. I'm into those, lately. :)

I agree, I couldn't personally destroy one of my journals and I don't have a censor when I write, either, although I am a bit more conscious of what my son might chance across as he gets older, so I might not go into certain topics as much as I used to. :)
roadnotes
Dec. 2nd, 2012 08:15 am (UTC)
I am a journal writer and keeper; I value both the good and bad from my past, as it's what got me to here.

Right now, I am rereading (not just skimming) journals from twenty years or more ago, and noting the mistakes I made in certain relationships, and the resonances they have with current relationships. I find it a useful exercise, even when -- as now -- it's painful.
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 12:40 am (UTC)
Isn't it funny how you can view things with a fresh set of eyes when you look at it so much later? Love that you have that much history in your journals. :) I would love to have a collection like yours!
flor_verde
Dec. 2nd, 2012 02:54 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the link -- I never know what to do with old journals, especially ones that I don't particularly want to reread.
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 12:39 am (UTC)
You're welcome. :) I wonder what I'll do when I have more than a few boxes to lug around with me. I'm not moving as often as I used to or writing as often (or as much) as I used to, so I guess it's not as much of an issue, now. But still. Something to think about.
kinston
Dec. 3rd, 2012 12:01 am (UTC)
Right now I am keeping all of my old journals, but I feel like I can't carry around that baggage with me forever. I'm not sure what I will do when the books feel like more than I can bear.
pinska
Dec. 6th, 2012 01:12 am (UTC)
Do you reread your journals? I try to re-read one when I finish one (which, right now, is like one per year, ha ha.). You might feel differently about them as you are distance from the "baggage." I re-read some college journals from a year I was battling with major depression and I thought it would be a horrible read, but you know? There were a lot more positive things in it than I remembered. It has been over ten years, though, so there's that.
kinston
Dec. 7th, 2012 04:23 pm (UTC)
I do reread old journals. Most recently I read an old journal of mine from almost ten years ago (my late teenage years) and it was just as moody and as uncomfortable for me as it was then. Destroying them is so permanent though, especially for a record of my years that truly made me who I am today.
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