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Journaling and privacy

Ok, to make this community slightly more active, I would like to ask how private is your journaling? Meaning - do other people know that you keep a journal? Do you talk about it openly, mention it randomly or keep it a secret? Do you hide your journal or keep it around so that people might see?

I keep my journal on the night table in our bedroom. My husband knows I keep it but he never asks and I trust him that he does not read it. (Apart from other reasons, he has problems deciphering my handwriting :)). I once told my longtime friend that I journal. But apart from these very close people, I never tell anyone that I've been keeping a journal. For me, it is something very private.

How about you?



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Jan. 29th, 2013 01:34 pm (UTC)
very private!
For yeas i told no one that i journaled. Then it became fashionable to do so. Articles recommended journaling for success. I have discussed journaling in workshops I have given so that people know that I journal but not its content.

My husband knows I journal. Since I do art work in my journal I sometimes show it to him. If I write something I want to share with him I will read it to him. I have copied the art work and shared it with friends.
But the journal is my space and not for public view.
I usually keep it in my bedroom. I have no need to "hide it" as no one would even think of reading it.
Jan. 29th, 2013 04:30 pm (UTC)
Mine is private, but some of my close friends know I journal. My girlfriend isn't very comfortable with it because she feels I'm keeping things from her, so I usually keep it out of sight to avoid her asking questions.
Jan. 29th, 2013 04:53 pm (UTC)
People know I have multiple journals. I don't necessarily hide my online journals or the vast majority of their entries. My paper journal is known about, but not necessarily shared, though I have been known to type up some entries to put into my online journals.
Jan. 29th, 2013 05:20 pm (UTC)
I talk about journaling openly. It's been such a part of my life for so long. I usually carry my journal around with me so it's no secret. But I haven't had any issues with people trying to read it. I have several friends who journal and we talk about it some, exchange prompts and projects. It keeps things interesting.

And obviously, I post here too. So I'm definitely not secretive about it. :)
Jan. 29th, 2013 08:17 pm (UTC)
I'm really proud of my journals, and I've been keeping them for so long that pretty much everyone I've ever known knows that I keep one. For the most part, I keep the entries private, but I often make pages that are artistic and sometimes I will share them with one of my very close friends or my sister. By putting the words and ideas down on paper, I'm making them into something real and physical. If I wanted to keep them 100% hidden, then I wouldn't write them down at all. :)
Jan. 29th, 2013 08:38 pm (UTC)
I like leaving my journal out on my night stand where I can easily access it. My completed journals are stored inside the stand. When I move in with my fiance, I want to leave them all out on a shelf. Sometimes I reread entries before I write.

My mom is aware that I keep a journal but we don't talk about it. My fiance knows all about my journal and I do read bits and pieces to him. He likes watching me write, and going out with me to look at journals.

I do like to engage people in conversation about journaling whenever the opportunity comes up (thus the P's and Q's)
Jan. 30th, 2013 02:05 am (UTC)
If someone is close to me, they know that I journal. I am very open about it and it is a very important part of my life. I was that girl in college that always had her journal with her. ALWAYS scribbling something down.

So, my husband knows I journal and he doesn't care. My friends know I journal and they don't care. My son knows I journal and points out W's and X's in my writing. (He loves W's and X's.) For a long while, I would write nightly in our living room. Not a big thing, because it's just me, you know?

I will say that I am more closed about keeping a journal with my mom, because my privacy was breached when I was in high school. I felt so violated at the time (I was fifteen, so it's been at least that many years since then) that I just don't want to go back to that.

I think that maybe if there aren't secrets, the journal won't be tempting. I'm pretty open about everything, so I guess.
Jan. 30th, 2013 04:00 am (UTC)
Everyone knows I journal. I talk about it to everyone. And even journal in front of people quite often. People don't always "get it", but that's ok.
Jan. 30th, 2013 04:15 am (UTC)
I'd say I'm kind of a semi-private journaler. I don't deliberately keep it a secret, but I don't really talk about it a lot, either. My family and close friends know I journal, mostly because I have an obsession with buying blank books in which to write. But I leave my journal at home, next to my bed. I get nervous if I put it in my purse and take it with me because I tend to leave my purse any old place. I know people don't normally go through a stranger's purse, but it still makes me nervous! If it's at home, I know nobody will read it. I do take it with me if I'm traveling, though. The first time one of my closest friends saw one of my journals was when we went on a trip to Las Vegas together. She was surprised to see it. I told her I don't normally take it out of my room.

Nobody has ever read any of my journals and I doubt I'd ever trust someone enough to let them read it. Luckily, my family is very understanding of boundaries and privacy.

I certainly don't mind talking to other journalers about journaling, though honestly I don't know any in real life! None of my friends keep journals and nobody in my family does, either. Just me! :)

Okay, this comment is getting way long, but there's one last thing! I keep an "idea journal" thing. It's usually a small Moleskine or something similarly sized so it fits in my purse easily. It's where I take notes about story and poetry ideas (since I'm a creative writer as well as a journal writer) and sometimes quite lengthy paragraphs about novels-in-progress. Other stuff can be phone numbers or to do lists. I don't worry about that one nearly as much. If someone read it, I'd probably just laugh.

Edited at 2013-01-30 04:15 am (UTC)
Jan. 30th, 2013 09:32 pm (UTC)
I have been married 34 years and my wife has never wanted to read my dairy. My wife does not even read my blogs. I really have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. I am an open book.
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Jan. 31st, 2013 08:40 am (UTC)
It's funny how I've been scanning and sharing my journals online for years, but never showed them to my friends or family. I think it's much easier to let strangers in sometimes.

I never told anyone that I journaled, since I was a child I kept it a secret for fear of my mother trying to spy me. And it was in 2011 that I "came out" to my sister and told her all about my journaling, because oddly she made a comment one day like "You're always scribbling like a maniac in that notebook, what the hell do you write in there?" and I said "Well, it's my journal", and she exclaimed "You keep a journal!? Wow, I wish I could do that, but what do you write about? I hate writing about my day, it's so boring" and I told her what I do, how I don't write about my day, and all the things that I journal about, and draw, and glue, etc. and now she journals too! It's amaaazing! And we even talk about it every now and then, we'll be like "Hey how's your journal going?" hahaha. I never in a million years thought that my sister (a very lazy person who prefers to watch tv instead of producing something) would find a creative outlet like this, it's incredible and awesome!

I don't hide the fact that I write, meaning that I take my journal everywhere and write in it in the livingroom, hotel rooms, cafes, parks, while traveling, at work, no matter who's with me. However, they never pay attention to what I'm doing. My prents don't know because they see me writing but don't really see me, if you know what I mean. At work I've been asked a couple of times "What's that?" and I'm like "Oh nothing, just writing down some thoughts" but I don't elaborate. So I openly share the fact that I journal, plus I will offer ideas and tips to make this activity more personal and creative, but I don't tell anybody the actual content of it, and when I scan the pages to share them online I blur them.
Feb. 3rd, 2013 05:33 pm (UTC)
You should write a post here about some of your ideas and tips on making journaling more personal and creative. :) I know I and others here would enjoy a post like this from you.
Jan. 31st, 2013 10:31 pm (UTC)
My family all keep diaries, though I think theirs are more a record of the day than actual thoughts and feelings - mine has always been a love hate relationship with big chunks missing and huge gaps in writing. But no one has read it, I think I would be able to tell by the content, and the way people would react differently to me after reading. There are secrets in there, haha.

Feb. 1st, 2013 02:42 am (UTC)
I've been keeping a handwritten journal for twenty-six years or so, and everyone who knows me knows that I keep one, because I'm always carrying it with me and pulling it out to write things down. I'm pretty straightforward about letting people know that it's mine, and not for everyone else.

I've had a standard deal with my spouses that, if they really want to, they can read any of my old journals, but not the current one (that's too raw and immediate). What they can't do, however, is ask me anything about the contents, because I didn't write the contents for them; I wrote them for me. As far as I know, they've never read any of them, except for the occasional passage I've shown them.

(This could be because my handwriting is small enough to be unreadable.)
Feb. 3rd, 2013 05:32 pm (UTC)
I keep my journal in my purse or lying around my house wherever I toss it when I'm finished writing in it. Although it's very private to me, I live with just my husband and I know he won't read it even if it was setting right in front of him.

All of my online friends know I journal since I am open about it while blogging or whatever, but no one I know in real life knows that I keep a journal. I don't really have any real life friends though, so I am not sure if I felt close to someone in real life if I would let them know or not.
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