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HI! sorry I haven't posted in ages, but with a 2 year old things stay busy to say the least... :)

Just a quick question, a friend and I were talking about journaling and about 'steamy' entries.  I am curious.  Where do you cross the line on R rated topics in your journals?  Do you have a line at all?? I have seen some of your entries and I understand that alot of this depends on what you are personally comfortable with.  I'm just curious as to if you may have a separate book to get these thoughts out in that is more hidden, so to speak, than your regular every day journal?  I, myself, have a blush book for what I would consider my most explicit writing... nearly all very detailed sexual entries I've had the urge to write down. I have this one put up separately from the rest and a note in my will regarding that it be destroyed rather than given to my son when he gets the rest of my journals.  I do have some mildly sexual content in my regular journal though.  I didn't always separate the two... but now that my son is here and I plan for him to eventually have my journals... I may start making sure that when I get the urge to write this stuff down that it goes in a book that I don't mind disappearing later. ;)  I'm preeeeettty sure the future 22 year old son doesn't want to know exactly what happened behind mommy and daddy's closed doors... ;)

So what do you think?  Do you separate the two?  Don't mind b/c you don't ever plan to let people read them?  Do you even write about this stuff or is it too taboo?

This conversation just got me to being curious... :)

Keep writing everyone!!



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Oct. 16th, 2013 08:04 pm (UTC)
Well, this one is a little bit hard for me to answer since I have no experience sexually. I mean zero. But I would probably be pretty detailed if I had anything to write. I mean, not a minute-by-minute account, but as detailed as I could remember. A general laydown of events (lol) and all the honest feelings regarding it all. My journals are as honest as I can be, and I also look back at them for reference. Nothing is too taboo for me.

Also, for what it's worth: my journals are also for generational posterity.

Oct. 16th, 2013 08:26 pm (UTC)
sexual content
I mention sex in my diaries, but do not go into great detail. I have been married 34 years and I would assume my children if they read my diaries when I am dead that Mom and Dad had sex.
Oct. 16th, 2013 09:08 pm (UTC)
I'm pretty sure he'll assume with some of my normal journal notes.... ;) but I would think he wouldn't be interested in /exactly/ how things went down even if I thought something was different or interesting and wanted it recorded.

Do you ever include details? Or is it considered too private to you?
Oct. 16th, 2013 09:40 pm (UTC)
To be frank my sex life is not interesting-after years of having sex I am amazed as I get older that we make such a big deal about sex/making love. Sex should not be the whole of ones relationship/marriage. Not saying sex is not important or pleasurable in marriage. I also do not think it is wise to always be thinking about sex/fantasizing. When I was a teenager and in my 20's maybe I wrote down some of my sexual adventures/love affairs (I destroyed my diaries from my youth/long story). I suppose I seek to keep my mind pure or keep it free of things that led me nowhere/frustration etc. . . Now if you want personally to write down your sex life make sure those diaries are read when your children are adults. Why expose children to what we do in our bedrooms.
Oct. 16th, 2013 10:14 pm (UTC)
Oh! That's exactly why I don't put details in my normal journal. I hope to avoid that! There's actually a clause in my will saying if I'm not around to do so, Bryce is to be given the journals as he comes to the age I am in the journal... (Ie reading my 15 yr old ramblings when HE is 15.., and so on until he's 21.)

And don't get me wrong, I don't do this all the time! Lol in 10 years of marriage, I only have ONE small blush book and even now, it's not full. lol I usually just write when the urge to record these things happens in this book. It's very rare... But I like recording our passion for each other as part of our young love and seeing how it's maturing as we age... It's interesting to see how even this changes with time, as I'm sure you understand. :) congrats on such a long relationship!
Oct. 16th, 2013 10:19 pm (UTC)
I'm very "victorian". I have my own language. It is "my" journal. lol
Oct. 16th, 2013 11:21 pm (UTC)
I do not edit my thoughts or experiences. It is MY journal. I write for myself not with any intentions to share. Intimacy is a part of human existence. I do not think it would be shocking to anyone to read of sexual activity.
Oct. 16th, 2013 11:26 pm (UTC)
welcome back. i recently starting doing mine again :)
Oct. 17th, 2013 03:09 am (UTC)
I write about sex sometimes but it has to be something special for it to be written down, it's just so natural it doesn't seem like something that needs to be documented. Maybe if my husband fucks me so hard I'm sore the next day it might be worth a sentence or two but you know.
Oct. 17th, 2013 03:28 am (UTC)
I … don't have a line. I do have separate journals: one is my private journal for me and another is a journal in which I write about sex/relationship stuff when asked to by my partner. That second one gets shared with that partner when he asks. But yeah, I don't have or plan on having kids, so that's not a concern for me, and I have no issues with talking/writing explicitly about sex generally.
Oct. 17th, 2013 09:13 am (UTC)
I do write about sex in my journal, but keep it superficial-ish and very general. If I want to write in detail and use 'obscene' language or something, I come to livejournal and write in a private entry in my own account.
Oct. 17th, 2013 01:17 pm (UTC)
I write about sex, not in a porn novel kind of way but more just noting what we did and how it felt. I guess if it was super special I might go into more details. I don't write about every time we fuck, though I guess I do make a "YAY I GOT SEX!" note pretty much every time lol. Besides this stuff, there's far too much... "delicate" information about other stuff, bodily fluids and things I am fully aware will not portray me as always a rational and sensible person. But that's ok, because I feel like letting stuff out of my system by consciously overreacting, then that was me at that moment. Probably I should always note that I'm aware of how it looks. Hmh. I don't intend my journals to be read by my family or bf (which he can't anyway unless he learns my native language) but by complete strangers in the distant future.
Oct. 27th, 2013 10:22 pm (UTC)
My journal is my space to write openly and honestly about my life and feelings without censorship. If I write about sex, I write about it openly and honestly, which I supposes makes my journal a little TMI. :)
Dec. 11th, 2013 01:59 am (UTC)
I write about it, but not in detail. I guess it's more like how I'm feeling, that sort of thing. I would include about the same as I would in a conversation with a girlfriend.
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